By: JVarner Photo
IG: @jvarnerphoto

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When you think about intimate photos, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? For many of us, it’s often something explicit and provocative. In today’s world, it’s easy to see why – everything seems to be pushed to the extreme, and it’s natural to hesitate when considering intimate photography. Many of us have rejected the idea altogether to avoid getting caught up in the current trends. Many of us may see ourselves as classy, modest, or simply too shy to do something so outrageous.

However, I’m here to suggest a different perspective. There’s another way to approach intimate photography that doesn’t conform to the usual expectations. It’s about capturing moments of genuine connection and intimacy in a tasteful and respectful manner. Instead of following the crowd, we can choose to create images that reflect deeper emotions and meaningful experiences. So, while the world may be filled with over-the-top portrayals, there’s an opportunity to redefine what intimate photography means to us individually.

A DIFFERENT APPROACH to intimate couples sessions:

1. Focus on Connection: My goal is to turn these sessions into a bonding experience rather than just a traditional photoshoot. I encourage couples to engage in activities together that help them relax and feel like they’re on a date. Whether it’s giving each other back rubs, cuddling on the couch, sharing snacks, enjoying a bubble bath with wine – these activities help create a natural and comfortable atmosphere. Ps. I operate ALL of my sessions based on connection. If you want to learn more about my shooting style, click here.
2. Clothed to Comfort: Intimacy doesn’t always mean minimal clothing. If clients want to explore more revealing shots but feel nervous, I suggest starting with outfits that offer more coverage and comfort. This approach allows them to gradually ease into more revealing attire at their own pace.
3. A Familiar Environment: I prefer conducting these sessions in the clients’ home rather than a studio. Being in a familiar environment helps them feel more at ease and relaxed, which translates into more authentic and intimate photographs.
4. Imperfection is Welcome: I enjoy capturing the unposed, in-between moments. I embrace a little motion blur or the occasional slightly crooked photo because these imperfections add a sense of authenticity and realness to the images.
5. Some Mildness in the Mix: Not every moment needs to be overly sensual. I make sure to balance the intimate shots with fun and playful moments. We take time to laugh, be silly, and capture genuine expressions of joy and connection.

By focusing on these principles, I aim to create a personalized and meaningful experience for each couple, resulting in photographs that truly reflect their unique bond and story.

SO, sure, you may do things differently, but why should I have these done? 

I’m glad you asked. Let me tell you here… these photos:

1. Capture Physical Connection Over Time: As you age, having these intimate photos allows you to look back and appreciate the physical connection you shared with your partner at each stage of your relationship. It’s a visual record of how your bond has evolved and deepened over the years, capturing moments that might otherwise fade in memory.
2. Enhance Bonding Experience: The process of participating in an intimate couples session itself can be incredibly bonding. It’s a time dedicated to focusing on each other, creating memories, and celebrating your relationship in a meaningful way. The shared experience of being vulnerable and intimate in front of the camera can strengthen your emotional connection.
3. Empowerment and Overcoming Fear: For many, the idea of an intimate photoshoot can initially feel daunting or intimidating. However, embracing this experience can be empowering. It’s about stepping outside of your comfort zone, challenging any fears or insecurities, and celebrating your body and your connection with your partner. The feeling of accomplishment and liberation afterward can be incredibly rewarding.

Ultimately, intimate couples sessions offer a unique opportunity to preserve and celebrate your relationship in a way that is personal, empowering, and reflective of your journey together. Whether you choose to keep the photos private or share them as a testament to your love, they serve as a timeless reminder of the bond you share with your partner.

I’m starting to see the value! But when is the best time to take boudoir photos?

Let me start off by saying this, there’s never a bad time for intimate couples photos. The best times for couples boudoir photos can vary depending on personal circumstances and milestones in your relationship. Here are some fitting scenarios:

1. The Morning After Your Wedding: After committing your lives to each other in marriage, the morning after can be an incredibly intimate and symbolic time to capture your love and trust in each other. It enhances the feeling of officially starting your journey together as spouses. Many photographers offer options to include boudoir sessions as add-ons to wedding packages, providing a seamless transition from wedding festivities to capturing intimate moments.
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2. Anniversaries: Celebrating milestones like your 5th, 10th, or even 25th anniversary with intimate couples photos can be a beautiful way to document how your relationship has grown and evolved over time. These photos serve as a tangible reminder of your enduring love and commitment.
3. Vow Renewals: Whether you’re renewing your vows after a significant number of years or as a special celebration, capturing intimate photos during this renewal ceremony can be a meaningful way to commemorate your continued commitment to each other.
4. Before or After a Long Separation: If you and your partner have been apart for an extended period due to work, military service, or other reasons, reuniting can be an emotional and intimate time to document your connection and love for each other. It’s a way to celebrate being together again and reaffirming your bond.

Each of these scenarios offers a unique opportunity to capture moments of intimacy, love, and connection between you and your partner. Whether you choose to keep these photos private or share them as a testament to your relationship, they can serve as cherished memories for years to come.

To wrap up, many of us, especially photographers, have heard unsettling tales about boudoir and couples boudoir sessions. Personally, while I have extensive experience with these sessions, I don’t actively promote them. This approach ensures I understand my clients and their motivations thoroughly before capturing their images.

My primary aim with these sessions is to challenge and reshape the prevailing perception society holds of boudoir photography. It doesn’t have to evoke feelings of naughtiness or shame. Instead, boudoir can foster emotions of closeness, love, empowerment, and intimacy.

Let’s work together to redefine what intimacy truly means. Consider booking an intimate, in-home couples session where you and your partner can connect on a deeper level than ever before. This experience not only captures moments but also creates a space for profound bonding and mutual empowerment.

See more of this beautiful, intimate couples session below.

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